UnShamed
The 6 week training to UnShame your life and connect with your own deepest intelligence, so you can unlock your authentic self and live in alignment with your purpose.
Feeling shame means you are resisting your own wisdom and value. When you use this as an invitation to communicate with part of your soul, the next stage of your life begins.
Most of us are, consciously or unconsciously, imprisoned by shame.
When you try to silence or change parts of your personality because they’re “too much”...
When you wish for a different body because you believe yours isn’t attractive enough…
When your inner voice abuses you with words like “I’m not smart enough,” “I’m too ugly,” “I’m a failure,” “I’m a procrastinator,” “I’m undisciplined,” “I self-medicate”...
When you hide, self-censor, and reject yourself before others have a chance to…
When you wonder, “What will people think of me?”...
When you constantly try to heal, fix, or change parts of yourself…
All of these are ways shame can have a hold over your life.
Over the course of our lives, layers and layers of shame build up based on ideas about who we’re supposed to be. It comes from external voices – your family, society – but as a child, you internalize it. And all of those “shoulds” become a wall that separates you from who you truly are: your gifts, your purpose, the essential aliveness you were born with.
In this way, shame prevents you from fully knowing yourself and sharing your gifts with the world. It keeps you small and invisible, afraid to fully explore the parts of your soul that are yearning to be brought forward and celebrated.
When you learn how to UnShame, it feels like meeting yourself for the first time.
The result is a life where you are liberated from judgment, connected to your inner intelligence, freer to express your true self, and able to create YOUR own path that is aligned with your soul purpose and the unique medicine you are here to share with the world.
UnShaming is one of the most impactful and fast-working techniques available to help you understand the true value and intelligence you have to share.
Your eyes will open to a new way of seeing yourself - a way of forges a new, loving and compassionate relationship with your most authentic self. You will see how shame pervades the way you look at your own development, how it leads you to try and heal yourself of yourself. You may even be shocked to learn how rare it is to be looked at with UnShaming eyes - eyes that delve fiercely and gently into what it’s really like to be you.
Have you spent years trying to "heal" parts of yourself that you're ashamed of?
You've tried therapy, hypnosis, shadow work, somatic experiencing, 12-step programs, or any number of other approaches that were supposed to "fix" the way you feel.
Some of these may have helped, but they haven't helped as much or as quickly as you thought they would.
No matter how much time you've spent on personal development, you're still dealing with the same challenges that have haunted you throughout your life.
Fawning and freezing when you feel criticized, challenged, or intimidated
Beating yourself up in a way that mimics early violence or abuse you experienced. It’s like you can never win with yourself
In an endless cycle of trying to lose weight before you can love your body
Researching ways to fix or disguise your neurodiverse brain because you’ve been told the way you think is wrong
Exhausted with trying to change the parts of yourself that someone once told you were wrong or bad – whether it’s the way you look, dress, talk, think, or feel
So focused on trying to become what you think you should be that you’ve lost track of your own needs and desires
You’ve spent your life trying to erase parts of yourself and “fix” what is wrong with you through shame.
Shame is how you face what disturbs you. Shame twists your healing path, leading you to turn against yourself, wishing you were someone else, or simply believing that something is wrong with you.
But there is another option: Facing your difficulties as if there is a deep message and meaning in them, as if they are offering doorways to the shadow’s gold, as if they are invitations to embracing your wholeness like never before.
You will leave Un-shamed with new eyes and a new relationship with yourself.
Because the parts of yourself that you’re ashamed of are the keys to unlocking your authentic Self.
When you enroll, you get instant access to:
6 Class Recordings (no longer live classes): During these weekly trainings, you’ll delve into the most pressing aspects of UnShaming that David has identified during his 20+ years of experience doing this work and are over 2 hours.
The UnShamed Play Book, a 100-page workbook to guide you through all the material and practices.
Recorded Q & A Videos
A Digital Copy of David’s Book, You Can’t Judge a Body By Its Cover.
If you constantly ask yourself:
“What’s wrong with me?”
“How can I heal, fix, or change the difficulties in my life?”
"Why am I so stupid? Why am I so ugly?”
“Why do I want something that is wrong?”
“Why can’t I be a better mother/partner/friend? I should be doing and saying X instead…”
Then it’s likely that you have been imprisoned by shame.
And your shame is your greatest teacher.
That ever-present hum of dissatisfaction in your life is there because there are parts of yourself that are not being lived.
Your soul won’t let you rest until you understand the beauty & intelligence it’s trying to point you toward.
The part of yourself you’ve been trying to fix is an aspect of your truest self that has been trying as hard as it can to communicate with you. It’s time for you to ally with it.
Our deepest difficulties are not meant to go away, they’re there to help you become you.
Un-shaming is the process of unlocking your soul purpose on this planet, through forging a new relationship with your True Self.
A life where…
You feel deep love and compassion toward every part of who you are, especially the parts you’ve tried to change or suppress in the past.
Your chronic inner voice of criticism is gone, creating a judgment-free space inside yourself where new self-awareness and appreciation can guide your actions and decisions.
In times of difficulty, you have a toolbox of skills you can call on that will help you face hardship with a deeper understanding of yourself and your needs.
You are confident in who you are, and no one – not your family, your partner, or society – can shame you into being anything else.
You have an open line of communication with your soul, and your inner wisdom guides you toward deeper alignment with your purpose every day.
You approach your whole being – including chronic pain, mental health challenges, or illness – with compassion and understanding that transforms your pain into wellbeing.
A message from David
UnShamed Logistics
Book: You Can't Judge A Body By It's Cover
The UnShamed Playbook
Week 1: Introduction to Shame PART ONE
Week 1: Introduction to Shame PART TWO
Week 2: UnShaming Feelings
Week 3: UnShaming Boundaries PART ONE
Week 3: UnShaming Boundaries PART TWO
Week 4: UnShaming Inner Criticism & Internalized Oppression PART ONE
Week 4: UnShaming Inner Criticism & Internalized Oppression PART TWO
Week 5: UnShaming Abuse Stories PART ONE
Week 5: UnShaming Abuse Stories PART TWO
Week 6: Your Trauma, Your Gifts PART ONE
Week 6: Your Trauma, Your Gifts PART TWO
Week 6: Your Trauma, Your Gifts PART THREE
BONUS CLASS
Week 1 Q&A Video
Week 2 Q&A Video
Week 3 Q&A Video
Week 4 Q&A Video
Week 5 Q&A Video
Week 6 Q&A Video
Note:
Inner Critic Exercise
Boundaries Exercise
Cooking Alchemy Exercise
UnShaming Sensations Exercise
Witnessing Exercise #1
David Bedrick, J.D., Dipl. PW is a process worker, attorney and facilitator. He is the author of Talking Back to Dr. Phil: Alternatives to Mainstream Psychology and Revisioning Activism: Bringing Depth, Dialogue, and Diversity to Individual and Social Change. His latest book is You Can’t Judge a Body by Its Cover: 17 Women's Stories of Hunger, Body Shame and Redemption. About his new book, Publisher’s Weekly wrote, “Bedrick celebrates 'the deep wisdom held in... hearts, minds, and bodies' of women in this powerful collection of profiles.”
David is the founder of the Santa Fe Institute for Shame based Studies where he teaches and works with individuals around the world.